Saturday, December 06, 2008

BFFs Old and New

Paris Hilton may have taken the term "bff" to new heights, but it's been around a while. I guess today good friendships are on my mind for a few reasons. First, I got an email yesterday from a very old and dear friend I was missing without realizing it. Second, I have been spending a lot more time with my friends lately. And third, I am hooking up, later today, with some internet friends. I love meeting online friends in person.

My old friend Maureen dropped me an email to update her contact info and it was weird how I had been thinking about her recently. I think about her now and then anyway, but last week I drove through her old stomping grounds and had a Maureen moment... then I passed an ancient Hyundai on the highway. It was the exact make, model, and color of the little hatchback she drove during college, later purchased by me and driven into its grave. She was on my mind, and then-- kapow-- she was in my inbox.

Plus three of my bff's from high school have been constant companions lately. Roxanne I have known since we were tweens. Timmy was my first real boyfriend. Petie I have known since pre-school. We spent Thanksgiving together and it was great. The game-- for which I am eating crow, thanks a lot Rams-- drew a 6,000-plus crowd. I got hugged a lot this Thanksgiving and it was lovely.

Then there's Alan and Nonny, two friends from Romance Diva pals who are leaving my area soon. I couldn't stand the idea of letting them go without an in-person hug, so I am squeezing in a quick lunch before a meeting. I love those online-in-face connects. I got a pretty nice guy out of one of those. :)

I've realized, reflecting this week, that BFF means more than "best friends forever." I have many "best" friends. If I were forced to pick only one it would be Ahmed, though Max might get kind of ticked off. But I won't be forced to pick just one. For me it's not the BEST that counts as much as the FOREVER. It's a great blessing to have friends. And good friendships survive time and distance. One minute you're getting tackled at a high school football game by a guy you run into all the time at the grocery store... the next you've got a very dear and old friend popping up in your email inbox after ages. But the warmth and genuine joy is there, regardless.

So drop your friends-- old and new-- a line. Tis the season, after all. Spread some tidings of comfort, joy, and bff-itude!

Edit: Nonny and Alan outside Cheesecake Factory!


  1. My only family, outside of my house and husband's family, is the pack of motley friends I've pieced together through the years.

  2. I'm really bad about keeping in touch with people. I should work on that.

  3. I have lots of "best" friends, too. And I think I have an extra loyalty gene. And Alan looks like he has a halo!

  4. Amanda Brice8:35 AM

    On Saturday night, one of my best friends from college came to see me in The Nutcracker and then we went out to Melting Pot for dessert. It was the first time I'd seen her in about 8 years...we kept in touch after college for a couple of years but once I started law school (around the time she finished her masters and then decided to go travel the world) we totally fell out of touch. I'd always regretted that and had hoped to find her some day.

    Well, we found each other on Facebook a few weeks ago and randomly discovered that we're living in the same city!!!!! (Weird, because neither of us are from here, nor did we go to school here.) Very exciting. It was so great to see her and meet her adorable little girl.

  5. good for you for keeping and getting in close touch with your bff's. great message!!